Quoting gardibolt:

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Some guidelines for everyone (not just Skip) to consider:

When you post something, remember the Golden Rule: Think, "If someone posted this about ME, would I be offended? 

Don't attribute ill motives to others. Assume they are trying to get the database in good working order too, because they almost certainly are.

If you disagree with someone, explain why you think they are wrong and why you think you are right.  (a) "You are a poopyhead" is not an explanation.  (b) Unless more explanation or clarification is requested, then DROP IT.

If you're posting more often in a thread than once an hour, you're posting in it too much.  Take a break.  Think more before you post.

Don't apologize and then immediately follow it with another insult; it's just smarmy and insincere and makes the apologizer look like a toad.

I could do better with these myself.  And if I've offended anyone, I sincerely apologize.  That was not my intent.

Great advice for everyone, including myself . Greenie for you! 

Quoting Prof. Kingsfield:

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I would not use  "Greenie for you!" evemn though that is a positive, I would only use the thumbs up and . Why because if that is OK to post then so is the corollary, and the corollary is instigation very clearly.

Good advice, IMO.

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Quoting m.cellophane:

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If "greenie for you" is going to become an outlawed phrase, there won't be much left that we can post without it being called "instigation". 

Just think of all the peace and quiet there will be here then. 

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Quoting Ace_of_Sevens:

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What? Why would the corollary automatically be okay? Are we taking the position it's not okay to complement people because then it would also be okay to insult them?

I think what he's saying is that saying "greenie for you" to someone is a corollary to instigating against people who disagree with the person you've given a greenie to.

Quoting m.cellophane:

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If "greenie for you" is going to become an outlawed phrase, there won't be much left that we can post without it being called "instigation". 

Just gave you a limey. Hope that doesn't offend anyone.

Quoting m.cellophane:

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If "greenie for you" is going to become an outlawed phrase, there won't be much left that we can post without it being called "instigation". 

Did I suggest outlawing it, James. I don't believe that i did. I was suggesting a behavior that I thik is advisable for all of us to follow. Ask yourself this question James, when you indicate that you are giving a user a red arrow, what is your motive, is not simply the thumbs down indicator sufficient to indicate your displeasure. Are you including "red arrow for you" to instigate others to do likewise.

That si why i think with perhaps a lone exception, you will not see me indicate anything other than a like or dislike, I will not publicly state whether or not I actually threw an arrow of any kind. And my use of  or    is in no way indicative of such a vote.

Good grief.  This is getting even more ridiculous. 

Agreeing with one person is not an attack on someone with a different view point.  It is just a different opinion.  A compliment to one person is not an automatic insult or attack to another person.

Quoting Ace_of_Sevens:

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Not all greenies are given out over disagreements, though. Besides, this also goes back to the root problem. Disagreements over issues are not the same as personal attacks or fights. Saying you agree with one person engaged in a debate isn't attacking whoever they are debating.

If Flip says grammar is normative, Jack says it's descriptive and explains his reasoning and Floppy and Zip say they are giving greenies to to Jack, this isn't ganging up on Flip.

For the love of God, we aren't going to agree on everything. The root problem is that some members need to learn to disagree like adults.

Ok I know who Flip, Floppy and Zip are, but who is this Jack?

Now back to our regularly scheduled program