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| Registered: March 13, 2007 | Reputation:  |  Posts: 2,005 |
| | Posted: | | | | Quoting DariusKyrak: Quote:
I don't think that PMing is the right idea. The problem with PMing is that the recipient can always claim that it is they who are being bullied and singled out and does nothing to alleviate any offense taken (unless the offender publicly apologizes). A more public response demonstrates that it is not acceptable, and it's harder to claim that it's victimization unless others view the berating and comment negatively on it. As the past in these forums has shown, publicly calling someone out on their behaviour leads to more insults, because they feel they are put publicly on the spot. They feel they are attacked and they think further insults by them are warranted. As I have said before: It should not be the responsibility of us users to call out someone on their misbehaviour. It should be the job of Invelos! And sadly, this is not done. | | | 
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| | Registered: March 13, 2007 | | Reputation: |  Posts: 5,635 |
| | Posted: | | | | I've found that sending a PM to a person because of an offensive post has always resulted in greater, more offensive insults in the PM exchange.
People who watch what they say (somewhat) within the forums become aggressive idiots in PMs.
When I quote horrendously offensive remarks in PMs I've received, Invelos's answer is for me to block that person's PMs.
Which does nothing but invite bullies to increase their attacks. | | | If it wasn't for bad taste, I wouldn't have no taste at all.
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| | Registered: March 13, 2007 | | Reputation: | | Posts: 6,635 |
| | Posted: | | | | These folks feed on the responses of others.
The only way to reduce the bad behavior is to not respond to it. It just accentuates how small the bullier really is.
Let them rant to themselves. | | | | Hal | | | | Last edited: by hal9g |
| | Registered: March 15, 2007 | | Reputation: |  Posts: 5,459 |
| | Posted: | | | | Quoting TomGaines: Quote:
As the past in these forums has shown, publicly calling someone out on their behaviour leads to more insults, because they feel they are put publicly on the spot. They feel they are attacked and they think further insults by them are warranted. I think most of the time this has been because sometimes the calling out has been just an inflammatory as the initial post, more of a retaliation than a calling out. I believe that the calling out of an abusive post should be made publicly, as should any apology, after all, that's where the insult was made - publicly. And as long as the calling out is done as neutrally as possible, there shouldn't be any escalation - unless of course the initial poster refuses to acknowledge they've done something wrong. But like Stuart, I've also noticed a feeling of users "walking on eggshells" when posting. But I'm hoping this is only temporary and eventually we'll be able to find a happy medium of mickey-taking and harmless sarcasm that made the place so lively! |
| | Registered: March 23, 2007 | | Posts: 317 |
| | Posted: | | | | It seems tat leaving it a few days hasn't really resulted in anything. I'll just suggest that if you see something you think is unacceptable behaviour you call it out (in the most neutral possible way). Also, I'd suggest backing up other people's comments that something is unacceptable to make it clear (again, in a simple statement).
Stuart | | | This is a sig... ... ... yay...
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| | Registered: August 22, 2007 | | Reputation: | | Posts: 1,807 |
| | Posted: | | | | Quoting DariusKyrak: [...] Quote:
you call it out (in the most neutral possible way). Like " I'm rubber, you're glue" ?  Just kidding. Back to serious, I agree with you.  | | | | -- Enry |
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