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DVD Profiler Unlimited RegistrantStar ContributorWinston Smith
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Registered: March 13, 2007
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Hey, Paulington!

I am an avid DVD collector that just got into buying Blu-ray discs. I take pride in my collection. I get every big new movie out there on the Tuesday that they are released. My girlfriend recently started a new job, and she bragged to one of her co-workers that I had the film World's Greatest Dad on Blu-ray. They want to borrow it. I said no, and now I'm in the dog house. I don't know these people. Or if I will ever get this disc back. But my girlfriend is calling me a jerk. What should I do? Should I give in and let her take the Blu-ray to work? Or stand my ground? Signed ~ Whistle Beaten


Dear Beaten. Never, ever loan your precious DVDs out to anyone. You'll never get them back. And if you do, they'll be scratched to hell. The worst part is, you always have to ask for them back. People borrow shiitake mushroom and never intend to return it. They don't have to pay the three dollar rental fee, but you're out twenty or more dollars. Sure. More folks should see and appreciate Bobcat Goldthwait's hilarious ode to suicide. But come on, you're not doing anyone any favors by loaning this disc out. Tell you girlfriend to eat a dick (preferably yours). Otherwise, you'll end up having this conversation: "Did you get my disc back?" "No." "Can you ask if they are going to return it." "They will. I don't want to ask. That's rude." Good-bye disc. I've said this before and I will say it again. DVDs and Blu-rays are garbage. Save yourself time and trouble. Rent the movie or catch it on your Netflix cue. It will save you a lot of money, aggravation, and trouble in the future. And you'll never have to work about loaning out your discs again. Right now, though, you own the disc. Tell your girlfriend to give you a deposit. If they return the disc unscratched, she can have her money back. Simple as that.

Couldn't agree more.

   

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thank goodness I have no friends to lend to.... 
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My brother is the only person I'll trust with my discs to because we understand that if it's not new when it returns, he has to provide a new copy.

That means no %*#&@ finger prints either!
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I borrow my discs constantly to my friends, I love sharing them and later discuss the films with them, so far there was one singel time I got a disc returned that was not in good shape, but the guy that borrowed it immediately payed me to get a new one.

So, no harm in sharing films

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I borrow my discs constantly to my friends, I love sharing them and later discuss the films with them, so far there was one singel time I got a disc returned that was not in good shape, but the guy that borrowed it immediately payed me to get a new one.

So, no harm in sharing films

cheers
Donnie


Same here. I lend films out a lot to my mates and family but under a couple of rules.
1) One at a time.
2) Bring it back messed up you don't borrow again.

Had a couple of people scratch discs but they've replaced them immediately without needing asked. I only lend to friends I see a few times a week and I won't lend out fims with special cases or that are now difficult/expensive to replace.

I get a big kick out of lending films to friends they have never heard of only to her they loved it.
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Registered: March 14, 2007
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I borrow my discs constantly to my friends, I love sharing them and later discuss the films with them, so far there was one singel time I got a disc returned that was not in good shape, but the guy that borrowed it immediately payed me to get a new one.

So, no harm in sharing films

cheers
Donnie


Same here. If I can't trust a DVD to my friend I certainly cannot call them "friends". Twice I've had back a different disc that I borrowed (same film of course). Once my friend dropped the dvd in snow by accident and scans got wet and in other case my friend's projector dropped from the ceiling  on top my DVD. Neither on these cases I didn't have to ask them to buy me a new copy. I don't loan out DVDs that cannot be replased OoP etc.
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I have really great friends, that is why we are friends.  I will not loan DVD's anymore, ever, ever, ever Fing ever.  One of my dearest friends in the world that I see regularly has now had one of my DVD's for over a YEAR!!!.  When I ask for it back I always get the same answer, "But I have not watched it, I will try to this weekend and give it back next week."  This conversation has gone on for nine months.  No more more, never, ever, ever again!
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"But I have not watched it, I will try to this weekend and give it back next week."  This conversation has gone on for nine months.  No more more, never, ever, ever again!

Why do people loan DVD's when they're not gonna watch it?
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Im watching about 7 or 10 a week again
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I learned that no good can come from loaning out my movies back in the VHS days. I found out the hard way that I couldn't trust anyone... not friends or family with my movies. As it seems the people I know... including the people in my own family felt since it was me they were getting it from they could treat the tapes however they wanted and return them whenever they want... several times never returning them saying "I didn't borrow that!" Even though I knew better. If they destroyed a tape and I asked them to replace it... all I would hear is "It's just a movie!... Relax!" and never ever had one replaced when they ruined it.

So I decided before I even started to collect DVDs that I would never loan out my DVDs to anyone. No matter who they are. No matter what they said. And if they didn't like it... well too bad. But I didn't freeze them out of enjoying my collection completely. They are always welcome to come here and watch a movie with me. Just none of the discs will ever leave my house... not unless I go with them.
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In the words of Benjamin Franklin, "Neither a borrower nor a lender be."  Words to live by unless you operate a lending library.
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In the words of Benjamin Franklin, "Neither a borrower nor a lender be."  Words to live by unless you operate a lending library.

Which, of course, would be without any customers if we all lived up to Ben's rule         
It all seems so stupid, it makes me want to give up!
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My parents are good with DVDs, as are several of my friends. My roommates ex-girlfriend still has Brotherhood of the Wolf, my Margaret Cho stand-up DVDs and I suspect Mystery Science Theater 3000 volume 2, which she's had about a year. I should just go to her parent's house and get them.
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I never under any circumstance let anyone borrow any of my movies.  One time I got the box back with no disc in it.  I don't care if you are my family, girlfriend or best friend.  Join netflix.  No exceptions, ever.
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In general I don't let anyone borrow.  I let an ex-roommate borrow 3 movies several years ago and she still has them.  Every time I see her she says she's still got them, and I have a standing invitation to come and get them.  I feel it's her responsibility to bring them to me, because I don't want to drive across the river to go get them.  Another friend lost my copy of Jin-Roh and I had to replace it off Ebay. 

However, there are three friends who are good about it and they can borrow movies.  Sometimes.  If it's something I can replace easily.  Or I'll bring the movie over and we can all watch it. 

I feel guilty about not lending though.  I don't want to do it, but I feel guilty if I don't.
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