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National Pink Shirt Day is next week...
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and the point of Pink Shirt Day is stop Bullying amongst our kids in school and with their peer groups ..

But every year when I hear about this annual  day I smile and remember my youth-  ...and today I'm going to tell you my story ...

How to Stop Bullying ? Easy you have a friend like my Mother was..
Years ago when I was about 13, 14 , A bully at school was always perstering me and punching me and knocking my books out of hands  or drink knocked over etc etc .. I'd come home all upset and crying that my new shirt got wrecked .. or my books were dirty with mud .., or my shoulder hurt from being punched... You know the results of being bullied.. Well I told my Mother, who was raised in a family of 6 brothers.., and she got me not only to tell who the boy was but then we drove Back to the school yard after school  and I timidly pointed him out, who in a pack of maybe 6 or 8 others nearby, smoking a cigarette and being the tough guy to others in that group. .

Well, My mother  took me by the arm and marched me over to this small crowd of boys , and said to me "Is this the boy and I said in a low voice .. ' Yes" ,,

.....she immediately grabbed this kid and threw him to the ground and "Jumped on his chest"  and grabbed his shirt collar and pulled his face right up to her face (inches away) and said for all to hear . "IF I EVER Catch you bullying my son again I am going to kick the ever-living  SH*T OUT of You..."!!    .. and you know what?  ( hearing the others laughing/snickering  at their 'hero' flat on his back in the school yard with his shirt ruffled and hair messed and cigartte broken in half nearby  ..... )  ..........      That kid never bothered me again ..   

Nor did any others  as word spread -  you mess with Terry and you mess with his mother  ...

True Story !  .. Now that is what we need these days More mothers from the old days (circa 1964)  .......  God Bless Mom ........   
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Funny, my mom said to kick his ass, that is the way to stop bullies.

She had my back with the school when I would get into trouble for fighting back.

I think it is something that parent are seriously lacking is teaching kids to stand up for them selves and or for those that can't.

I got a lot of crap because of my hight in school, I was a 16 year old Senior and a whopping 5ft maybe 5'1".

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my scenario was the typical Biff vs Marty ... ( one BIG /  one small .... Me)  ....
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I was a very quiet, shy kid with a stutter and I got picked on all the time. It didn't help that my best friend was a girl either.

Thankfully, my mum got a job as a dinner lady (they're ladies who walk around the playground and stop fights, help injured kids etc, for our US friends) at my middle school (ages 9-12).

Within 3 months of her starting the job the kids stopped bullying me. Why do I hear you say?

Simple - she was kind to the really bad kids. In effect she treated the bullies with respect and like friends. From that point on 2 of the worst kids in school protected me if anyone else picked on me.

One of them even continued to do it when we moved up to senior school.

Unfortunately for me I was on my own when I went to college.
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Thankfully, my mum got a job as a dinner lady (they're ladies who walk around the playground and stop fights, help injured kids etc, for our US friends) at my middle school (ages 9-12).

I am curious as to the origin of the name.  We have the same thing here in the states, at least where I live, and it isn't just women as I am one, and we call them 'yard' or 'noon' duty supervisors...because they work in the school yard and around noon.
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Thankfully, my mum got a job as a dinner lady (they're ladies who walk around the playground and stop fights, help injured kids etc, for our US friends) at my middle school (ages 9-12).

I am curious as to the origin of the name.  We have the same thing here in the states, at least where I live, and it isn't just women as I am one, and we call them 'yard' or 'noon' duty supervisors...because they work in the school yard and around noon.


Well they only work at dinner time (that's lunch to most people). Our school only employed women to do the job (this was 1976). Hence Dinner Ladies.
I'm sure nowadays they are called Lunch Supervisors or something similar; but back in the day it wasn't so PC.
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Thanks for that...I had forgotten that some people call lunch, dinner.
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Thanks for that...I had forgotten that some people call lunch, dinner.


It's all over the place really in this part of the world. Some people here think it's restricted to Scotland the lunch calling dinner thing and calling dinner tea.

But it's all over these islands. It comes from 5'oclock being the time back in the days of empire when people would have a cup of tea.

Eventually as people could afford to eat 3 square meals a day. The phrase of tea time remained as 5'o'clock is when most people have there dinner.

So we call it tea.

Hope that made sense.
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Thanks for that...I had forgotten that some people call lunch, dinner.


I've known people who called lunch dinner and called dinner supper.  Where I was raised, dinner = supper.  But that's not true everywhere I guess.
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Breakfast, lunch, and dinner (as in "dining out"). For me, supper is casual and dinner is more formal.



@ Terry:  Translation: She had to bully him for him to stop bullying you It worked out for you, but is counter-productive to the purpose

Not meant to be a downer, but I laughed the first time that I saw a commercial for this. Bullying in schools will only end until after all of mankind can agree on everything all of the time, plus an extra generation or ten.  That, or when schools no longer exist.  I already have a pink shirt from supporting the cure for breast cancer. The color looks awful on me, but I suppose I would wear it for a day with no one else understanding or asking why.


I wasn't heavily bullied as a kid. I was "picked on" but I never saw that as the same thing. I was dumb enough to not realize "they are laughing at me, not with me," but from my point of view what did it really matter? The few kids that did go a bit beyond that I was instinctively able to one-up them (ie: evade rather than fighting back or running) which worked to my advantage. Nonetheless, being the type of person who appeared perfect for bullying, I was lucky because bullying was relatively rare at my school.
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@ Terry:  Translation: She had to bully him for him to stop bullying you It worked out for you, but is counter-productive to the purpose

Exactly  but main  point is -  She didn't actually Bully him.. Just beat him up the first time only time .. 

But main moral of this story is ..'  Life was pretty easy back then..'  Now adays if a parent did that they would be hauled into  court and charged... But that scenario was the furthest thing on any one's mind  in those days .....  including the bully ....
In the 60's, People took Acid to make the world Weird. Now the World is weird and People take Prozac to make it Normal.

Terry
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